r-y-c-h-a-n asked:
uhm . . I was really depress right now eventhough i should not.. There's this guy, i'm secretly in love. Its been two years now and for that two years i decided to move on. I new the fact that he will have a girlfriend someday.. and today, it is official, he had a girlfriend. i heard it from my friend. I was prepared for that fact but still it hurts.. really.. how can i get rid of this pain ? T.T

aww are you ok? It’s hard when we like people and they don’t like us “/ I don’t really have much to say really, I don’t think anyone really knows how to get over a guy it just depends on the person.

First of all, cut of all contanct with him. Talking to him all the time isn’t going to help you get over him, and it isn’t going to make you see what life is like without him in it. So I mean it, stop talking to him. If he can’t see how amazing you are then he doesn’t deserve to have you, leave him and start completely afresh without him in your life.

Let yourself get upset over him being with someone else. There’s no point keeping it in, it will just make you feel worse and you’ll end up taking it out on someone else. Have a girly night in or just stay in on your own, watch sad movies, eat ice cream… cry. I bet you’ll feel better if you’ve just had a good cry and it’s out there.

And babe finally, go out, have fun. Enjoy life, meet guys don’t let him hold you back. Smile more, laugh enjoy yourself and put yourself out there. Forget about him babe because you deserve someone who loves and cares about you not someone else
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r-y-c-h-a-n asked:
uhm.. hi ?

hey :)

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Anonymous asked:
Ive started to selfharm, it's nothing major though. It's for everytime something's gone wrong, I feel worthless etc, it helps. I don't hack away or anything but it's been the holidays so when I go back to school you'll be able to see the cuts/scars idk what to do. Everyone'll know! My boyfriend will find out too.. Should I tell him so he doesn't get all weird when he sees them? Agh I know it's stupid but I'm so nervous to go back to school and what if my mum finds out?! Idk what to do/say :S x

Calm down, it’ll be ok. Just relax, take a deep breath. I think you owe it to your boyfriend to tell him. He obviously cares about you and will want to know and will want to help. Sit him down and talk to him on your own, explain how you’ve been feeling and you want to tell him. Going out with someone means you’re letting them into your life, which sadly includes the problems that surround your life. He’ll be there for you, I promise. And with him by your side are you that worried about other people? If you have someone who loves you and cares for you?

In the meantime, please stop worrying about other people, it’s just going to upset you more and get more worked up. Take each day as it comes, don’t worry about what will come just work on what is happening. Everytime you feel sad I want you to talk to someone. You don’t have to talk to someone about what’s upsetting you, it can be anything. Just talk to someone to take your mind off it. If you can’t do that, then take a few minutes out. Breath, calm your mind. Listen to music, write down your feelings on a peice of paper and then rip it up, watch your problems just, tear away. I know I’m saying it like it sounds simple and I don’t mean to, I know it’s not simple. But I am here for you, and you will overcome this, you’ll get better.
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Anonymous asked:
hi

Hey!
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Anonymous asked:
Hey... I recently just got out a break up like 4 day's ago and I'm kinda of happy because the way she was treating me towards the end of the relationship was really depressing because she bbs. Showed. Me any attention at all and i didn't feel like her girlfriend. So i had to call it off. i miss her being by my side.. 1

i miss all the good times we had. Memories. Are flashing back and i just want to cry… But other than that I’m alright being single and not being her girlfriend. How long do you tHink i should wait to be in another relationship.. I’ve been ignoring her since we broken up… Should i be feeling this way? Our relationship was 2 years and a half i don’t know what to do. 2

Break ups will always be hard because you’re so used to that person being there with you all the time and when you get low, said or lonely you think about how you wouldn’t be like that if you were with that person.

But I want you to think, how will getting back with her help? There was obviously a reason you thought the relationship wasn’t working anymore, keep thinking of that, keeping holding on to the problem. When we look back at things we always see the good times and forget about the struggle, and that’s good - we don’t want to remember the things that hurt us. But in this instance I think you should remember what went wrong. If you think you can both work on it then great, but if not please don’t put yourself through all that. Because I bet you it will hurt a lot more that next time…

Why not take a few weeks away from her. Hang out with your friends, go out, have fun! See what it’s like being away from her and then see how you really feel?
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Anonymous asked:
are you online?

I am now
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Anonymous asked:
Hey Autumn. Phoebe here.. I didn't do it. I couldn't do it. I knew if I did it, I would regret it. I was going to write that letter, but I forgot :L I mean, it took 2 days and my mum spoke to me again and we're like we were.. My nephew is a month old today. That made me happy. But I was getting picked on earlier during lessons and lunch. I ignored it but it still didn't make me that happy to be honest.. But I'm okay now. I will be okay. Thank you :) <3

Phoebe always you’ll be an inspiration to me because you’re so strong and I still think that sometimes you can’t truely see how strong you are. If ignoring people picking on you isn’t helping then tell someone, you don’t even have to tell a teacher or a parent, just tell… someone. You don’t have to go through any of this alone and I don’t want you to feel like you do. I’m always here and I’ m sure your friends will be too, and when you’re ready to tell your mum, she’ll be there for you as well. You’ve got a whole team of people here who want you to get better. We believe in you <3
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I am diggin the name and URL.

Thank you
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Anonymous asked:
what if your not ready to try and get better?

If you’re not ready to try and get better then of course I understand. I wasn’t saying it to upset anyone, I was saying it because you can’t get better and you can’t change things if you’re not willing to try. Even if everything fails, at least you can say you tried… right?
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Anonymous asked:
what if people just want to vent because they dont have anybody else and your saying you dont care thats meannnnnnnn

I’m not saying I don’t care. I’m saying do something about it there’s no point dwelling on things because otherwise things are just going to continue feeling crap. You need to do something about it to make it better than it is, if you get what I mean?

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a-jude-to-remember-deactivated2 asked:
Thanks for the follow :D. Im one step closer to 300 followers :3

You’re welcome! and oo, good luck!

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Anonymous asked:
who is blaming you for them not liking their life? :(

A lot of people keep coming to me (not one here don’t worry guys!) and telling me how bad their lives are and how I don’t understand and how all these things have happened and it’s not their fault and how they can’t tell me what it is but they’re just going to go on at me about it and shout if I try to help…

Basically, I’m sick of it. If you’re not going to ask for help then stop moaning basically. I know that sounds harsh but if you’re not willing to help yourself how can you expect other people to help you? You get me?
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You’re sick of your life? Don’t blame me, yeah you didn’t ask for this life but you’re the one letting it hold you back. Fight back, push away, live your own life. Don’t let your past determine who you are, or who you become
Anonymous asked:
since you have no questions, how is every thing going for you recently? :)

haha aww thank you, this made me smile :’D

Things are going great actually :) I honestly can not complain about anything at all. I’m behind on school work and coursework but I’m not getting upset about it, I’m just getting my head down and taking my own advice for once, I’m enjoying my life. Because this time next year I’ll be at college and I don’t want to be sat there wishing I would have enjoyed high school more.

How everything going for you?
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Anonymous asked:
I feel so alone and no one understands. They think I'm happy and yet they just don't get it. They don't see me when I cry myself to sleep, when I hold on to everything to stop it all changing but it just wont stop.

When you feel like that you’ve just got to remember, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. There are so many people out there who are feeling just like you. So what I want you to do is when you’re next feeling down, think of someone else. Think of any person at all, sat there feeling just like you. Hold on to that thought, hold on to that person that you’ve made up. Because you know that they’re feeling just like you - they understand and you can tell them anything.

I’m not trying to tell you to make up a best friend or anything, I’m just saying that just because the person isn’t there doesn’t mean that they’re not real. Stop pretending, if you’re sad - be sad! Show everyone how you feel and be proud of how you feel, there is nothing wrong wih showing your emotions, it just makes you human. And if you show you’re upset, then maybe they can do something to help you.
A.xoxo




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